Everyone has a story. Many, in fact. Some are fun and awesome, and others are downright horrible. It is the difficult ones that teach us the most. Those lessons are the upside of a crisis. Finding the positive in a difficult moment doesn't mean you enjoyed what happened or want to live through it again or remember it fondly. Nor does it take away the pain or hurt of what happened. Finding an upside means you are taking away more from a crisis than only pain and anger.
Sometimes it takes years for us to realize what we gained out of a bad experience, but there is always something. Here is a video of one of my stories https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qVYkPGYgLxs which I told at the Woodstock Story Slam. It took place when I was nine, but it wasn't until I was an adult that I realized that living alone with my seven-year-old sister had an upside. It was the first time I learned how to handle a crisis and all that goes with it. Nine years old was too young to be pushed into such a big event, but there is no planning a crisis, only managing one, followed by what you do with that experience.
There is a lot we can learn about ourselves from writing our story, plus it is therapeutic. Getting thoughts out of our head and onto paper shows them in a whole new light. It is easier to see our roadblocks or hang-ups when our dilemma is written down. Also, the more stories you write about your life, the easier it is to identify patterns in your behavior that may or may not benefit you. You begin to create a journal of experiences that can help guide you to making better choices for your future. You will also see how remarkable you are and the upside in all you have lived through.
Below is a link to help you get started writing one of the stories of your life: